Fliss Baker

Are you a people pleaser?

Are you a people pleaser? Hands up ladies, who thinks they’re a people pleaser? Let’s define this shall we? A people pleaser is someone who wants to do things for others to make them happy, sometimes at the expense of their own needs. I think every one could rate themselves…

Girl Shaming is Shameful

Girl Shaming is Shameful I’ve recently been away to Ibiza, the island I always run to for rest bite when I want to relax and feel the sunshine. As soon as the plane hits the ground I feel the warm air on my skin and subsequently feel at home. This…

It’s Time to Talk – Mental Health

It’s time to talk! Time to Change are the leading national campaigners, paving the way to end mental health discrimination. They are holding a nationwide Time to Talk Day on Thursday 2nd February 2017 to encourage people to talk about mental health and keep the conversation going around the clock!…

Be Smarter with your New Year’s Resolutions

Be smarter with your New Year’s resolutions. It’s time to review those New Year’s resolutions. Review them I hear you say? This early? Well you might be doing ok with yours but there’s no harm in giving them the quick once over. According to a survey done by BUPA, the…

Exercise your way to a better mental health

Exercise your way to a better mental health Now lets make one thing clear here, I am not an expert in exercise nor nutrition. I am simply a human being who has had shitty mental health and been on a long and challenging journey encompassing much learning on how to…

World Mental Health Day

World Mental Health Day It’s World Mental Health Day today the 10th October and a perfect opportunity to talk about a subject that is growing in discussion yet still holds a lot of stigma. Did you know that mental health problems are one of the main causes of the burden…

Stress is seriously stressful

Stress is seriously stressful By Fliss Baker Stress is such a little word. I visualise someone pulling their hair, tired, pressured and feeling trapped but it’s even more than that. It is very dangerous physically and mentally to the body. I’m going to tell you what stress does to my…

Perfectionism

Perfectionism Where did we learn the message that we needed to aspire to perfectionism? We could blame the media but every element of our personal learning and life experience gears towards the ideal that perfectionism equals success. If we think about our upbringing we are taught from an early age…

Challenging our thoughts

Challenging our Thoughts Isn’t it interesting how we dip into different pools of thought depending on what mood we’re in? I couldn’t be more aware nor feel more qualified on this based on the fact I have a mood disorder. If we feel low our brain somehow accesses thoughts and…

Overcoming Panic

Overcoming Panic Never underestimate the power of panic. Anyone that has suffered a panic attack will know that they are both terrifying and debilitating. Mix that with the embarrassment of being in front of other people and you have a destructive concoction that creates the dreaded panic attack. Panic is…

National Eating Disorder Week

National Eating Disorder Week • Fliss Baker’s story Eating disorders are a mental illness I feel very passionate talking about. Due to it’s secretive nature, it is very difficult for those who have struggled to speak out. I know that for a fact because it can be hard for me….

Don’t dip after Christmas

Don’t dip after Christmas Isn’t life a contradictory bugger when Christmas and New Year brings fun, joy and celebrations yet the time off work, nice presents and newly made memories are simply not enough to lift our moods through January and February? Most of us experience that unavoidable dip. I…

Forget Resolutions join The New Year’s Revolution!

The New Year’s Revolution! At midnight our previous year flashed before us as our New Year appeared as a welcoming window of hope. We hugged and kissed loved ones, chinked glasses and promised new resolutions. We do so for the sake of tradition but if we look at hard facts,…

Giving is better than receiving

Giving is better than receiving   Back at college when I was completing my English Literature A Level I was given an interesting book to study and discuss. The assignment question was ‘is any charitable act we do for others selfless?’ I remember deliberating endlessly because I couldn’t think of one…

Empower yourself- know your medication

Empower yourself. Know your medication It is important for me with a diagnosis of bipolar to raise awareness about the severity of side effects of medication. We are all too ignorant (unintentionally of course) and uneducated about the little pills we are asked to swallow to treat our symptoms for…

World Mental Health Week

World Mental Health Week It is World Mental Health Day today and I’ve been busy campaigning. I have social networked to the point of stalking, fundraised (and continue to) for UK mental health charity MIND and blogged with determination as well as share my story and poetry throughout The Cube’s…

We all need purpose

What can I say? We all need a purpose in life. We often forget that those with mental health problems, particularly in the case of depression, lose that purpose and question their place in life. I did. I had it all, seemingly. I had a beautiful flat, senior management job,…

We’re all bullies

We’re all Bullies. Controversial statement I know. But in truth, we are. And I don’t mean the ‘bully’ associated with playground pushing around, or gang abuse on the streets or the irritating boss that pushes unfairly to get results.   I’m talking about how we bully ourselves. I’m talking about…

B Real with Bipolar

Be Real with Bipolar When I first started speaking and writing about mental health, I promised myself to always be real. With good health and confidence it is fantastically easy but the challenge has been when the ill health sets in. How can one positively impact the world of mental…

The Dark World of the Eating Disorder

The Dark World of the Eating Disorder By Fliss Baker My last article talked about body image but I wanted to extend into the deeper world of the associative eating disorder because of the growing increase and level of severity. We know that we associate feelings with food and often…