Self Help

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The Secret to Achieving your Goals

The Secret to Achieving your Goals How are you with goal setting? Do you set big hairy audacious goals, or are yours small and manageable? Are your goals always the same, meaning that you never achieve them? Or maybe you are waiting to be stronger, smarter, more beautiful, even fitter…

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Be Smarter with your New Year’s Resolutions

Be smarter with your New Year’s resolutions. It’s time to review those New Year’s resolutions. Review them I hear you say? This early? Well you might be doing ok with yours but there’s no harm in giving them the quick once over. According to a survey done by BUPA, the…

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Don’t forget the Past Year. Learn from It!

Don’t forget the Past Year. Learn from It! The year is nearly at an end and I guess that you’ve been so busy living life that you haven’t had time to review it. Taking time out to review always feels like a bit of a chore but I am here…

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WHICH WORD WILL YOU GROW INTO IN 2017?

WHICH WORD WILL YOU GROW INTO IN 2017? It is almost the time for New Year’s resolutions but, as a sweeping generalisation, I don’t like them. Too often people make their resolutions flippantly, and without any genuine intent to fuel their successful implementation; so they are more likely doomed to…

Exercise your way to a better mental health

Exercise your way to a better mental health Now lets make one thing clear here, I am not an expert in exercise nor nutrition. I am simply a human being who has had shitty mental health and been on a long and challenging journey encompassing much learning on how to…

How Cyberbullying Differs from Standard Bullying How to Stop It

How Cyberbullying Differs from Standard Bullying and How to Stop It Bullies will always exist and they will always try to attack you where they think you are weak. Their personal insecurities manifest in the form of intimidation, belittling insults and the siphoning of self-confidence. Until around ten years ago,…

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Do You Need To Be More Social Media Selfish?

Last week I saw the very knowledgeable Andy McKenzie put something on his Instagram about being selfish to be happy. I’m not going to go into the ins and outs of that post, other than to say in general I agree. The bits and pieces I have utilised from NLP and my own personal…

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Stress is seriously stressful

Stress is seriously stressful By Fliss Baker Stress is such a little word. I visualise someone pulling their hair, tired, pressured and feeling trapped but it’s even more than that. It is very dangerous physically and mentally to the body. I’m going to tell you what stress does to my…

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A Flow of ideas…

A Flow of Ideas… A long established wisdom and central tenet in personal and spiritual growth, is the saying “Know Thyself.” Such a fundamental aspect which influences all we do through our choices and decision-making, and yet how much time do we give to understanding ourselves? Do you really know…

STOP SAYING YOU’RE “FINE”

  STOP SAYING YOU’RE “FINE” There is a four letter F-word that’s holding you back, but it’s probably not the F-word you’re thinking of right now <chuckle>. The F-word I’m referring to is fine; think about it. In this context, the dictionary defines fine as something that is of a…

The Connection to Ground.

The Connection to Ground. We are live-wires; electromagnetic bundles of energy connected to streams of activity and interest. We give out signals – of what we want and need – and receive calls, consciously and subconsciously from corresponding attractions, be they people, places or events. As space and time moves…

WHEN THE HORSE IS DEAD, IT’S TIME TO GET OFF!

WHEN THE HORSE IS DEAD, IT’S TIME TO GET OFF! When the horse is dead, it’s time to get off may seem like advice taken straight out of the Stating The Bleeding Obvious Handbook, but you’d be surprised how often I find myself encouraging mentees to do exactly this. Some…

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The Art of Self-Care

The Art of Self-Care The art of self-care is a simple yet profound concept. It involves no-one else and is best practiced held-lightly and with grace. It teaches self-love, inclusion and gentleness. Its intention: to bring together the disparate aspects of our psyche and physical awareness. It soothes and it…

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Perfectionism

Perfectionism Where did we learn the message that we needed to aspire to perfectionism? We could blame the media but every element of our personal learning and life experience gears towards the ideal that perfectionism equals success. If we think about our upbringing we are taught from an early age…

Roll with life’s punches

Roll with life’s punches Life has an uncanny and infuriating habit of sucker punching us when we’re already down. How often have you ever looked skywards and pleaded “…could I please just catch a break?!” A case in point. My brother, Philip, was diagnosed with Stage 4 Hodgkin Lymphoma last…

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Moving Forward

Moving Forward I have spent the best part of the last two years trying to ‘move forward’. And I am laughing to myself as I write…trying to move forward – a contradiction in itself. But this is what I was doing, albeit with awareness. I knew I didn’t have it…

Do you need a social Media Cleanse?

Social Media Cleanse By Rosie Campbell I think it’s really important to surround ourselves with the right people. During the latter years of my eating disorder, I lived alone. I had a job that paid well and I valued my independence, but living alone meant that some of my obscure…

Letting Go

Letting Go It is when we are most frustrated and most incapacitated that change happens. No more can we accept the status quo of limited action based on out-dated values and drivers of esteem. The frustration arises due to the subconscious knowing ‘there is more’, a different way to be…

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DO YOU HAVE THE ENTREPRENEUR’S CHROMOSOME?

DO YOU HAVE THE ENTREPRENEUR’S CHROMOSOME? I had an interesting encounter recently, with a lady I will call Frieda. Frieda is a young, single mother, who started her own business towards the end of last year. Frieda is immensely talented doing her thing, but was beginning to suffer with low…

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ARE YOU (OVER-)THINKING IT OVER?

If you try to comprehend air before breathing it in, you will die ~ said a wise person (not me) once. As soon as I read this quote, it gave me pause. You see, I have been known to be a little over-analytical. That sound you can hear now, is…

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Is your happiness in your hands?

As an actress I spend most of my time surrounded by highly creative people and over that time I have come to realise that 99% of people in the entertainment industry suffer from mental illness, particularly depression. The sad truth is that almost a good 50% of all these people…

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Empower yourself- know your medication

Empower yourself. Know your medication It is important for me with a diagnosis of bipolar to raise awareness about the severity of side effects of medication. We are all too ignorant (unintentionally of course) and uneducated about the little pills we are asked to swallow to treat our symptoms for…

How to be successful

To Be, Or Not To Be? That Is The Question: When you think differently, you do differently. You can decide to be or not to be a positive person. What I will share with you will change the course of your life. It’s not magic, it’s as simple as choosing…

We all need purpose

What can I say? We all need a purpose in life. We often forget that those with mental health problems, particularly in the case of depression, lose that purpose and question their place in life. I did. I had it all, seemingly. I had a beautiful flat, senior management job,…

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YOU CAN BE ANYONE, WHY NOT BE SOMEONE?

Close your eyes and visualise who you want to be, because the first step for getting what you want is to know what you want. Without knowing which direction you want to travel in, no wind is favourable; you must first chart your course, before you can set your sail….

Faith: Evidence of Things Unseen

What is faith if it doesn’t endure when we are tested the most? This is the question I asked a mentee of mine (Adam) earlier this week, whilst he was trying to persuade me a long-standing project should end, be terminated…should cease to be. Adam was clearly demoralised, he’d lost…

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HOW TO MANAGE THE LAWNMOWER OF LIFE

Whilst preparing the garden before cutting the grass – having already cleared away the “product” of the entire cast of the neighbourhood’s Aristocats – I happened upon a snail. This snail, who I have named Nials, was minding his own business munching on a leaf of some indeterminate plantage, which…

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Push vs Flow

A mentee asked me the following question yesterday: “Don’t your messages to push on, march forth and then go with the flow contradict each other?” This is an excellent question, and I can understand why an apparent contradiction exists in the eyes of some. If this question has occurred to…

It pays to engage with charm

Charm is the power of delighting, attracting and fascinating others, and having the ability to influence benignly; so why wouldn’t you? Perhaps it’s just me, but I am becoming increasingly aware of the levels of aggression we’re encountering these days, as opposed to the 1800’s when I was a child….